Assistance to Loved Ones
Adair & Associates | Wealth Management
Assistance to Loved Ones
Sooner or later, many of the families we work with want to help someone: a grandchild heading to college, a daughter short on a down payment, a parent who can no longer manage alone. We help you work out what you can afford to give and how to go about it, starting with what your own retirement needs.
A 15 to 20 minute conversation. No cost, no obligation.
- Hunter Adair, CFP®
- Financial planning since 2002
- Securities and advisory services through LPL Financial
The short answer
What does assistance to loved ones cover?
Assistance to loved ones covers the money you intend for other people while you are still living, such as gifts to children and grandchildren, savings for someone's education, and the cost of a parent's care.
Nearly every one of these decisions comes with a tax rule or a deadline attached. A 529 plan, a custodial account, and a Roth IRA for a teenager can all hold the same gift and treat it very differently. A tuition bill you pay directly follows its own rules, separate from the ones for cash handed to a grandchild. Anything you give away also comes out of what your own retirement has to draw on, so the first thing we look at is what a gift does to your own numbers, all the way out to age ninety.
Side by side
529 plan vs. custodial account vs. Roth IRA for a child
These are three accounts families often ask us about when the money is meant for a child. None of them takes much money to start. Here is where they differ, starting with who owns the money.
| Category | 529 college savings plan | UGMA / UTMA custodial account | Roth IRA for a child |
|---|---|---|---|
| Who owns the money | The adult who opens the account. The child is the beneficiary, and the owner can switch the beneficiary to another qualifying family member. | The child, from the day of the gift. A custodian manages it until the child takes over, which under Maryland law is age 21 for gifted property. | The child. A parent or other adult manages the account as custodian until the child reaches adulthood. |
| What it can pay for | College, graduate school, trade school, and registered apprenticeships. Federal law also allows up to $20,000 a year for K-12 expenses and a limited amount of student loan repayment. State tax treatment of those uses varies. | Anything that benefits the child, education included. | Retirement, mainly. Contributions can be taken back out at any time. Earnings generally need to stay until age 59½. |
| What can go in | Any amount, up to the plan's overall cap. Contributions count as gifts, so giving one child more than $19,000 in 2026, 529 contributions included, means a gift tax return. | Any amount. The same gift tax rules apply. | No more than the child earned from working that year, up to $7,500 for 2026. The money can come from a parent or grandparent. |
| How it is taxed | Earnings are not taxed while they stay in the account, and withdrawals for qualified education costs are free of federal income tax. State treatment varies. | Investment income is taxable in the year it is earned. In 2026, a child's investment income above $2,700 is generally taxed at the parents' rate. | Contributions are made with after-tax money. Qualified withdrawals in retirement are free of federal income tax. |
| Maryland income tax break | Yes, with conditions. A Maryland taxpayer can subtract up to $2,500 per beneficiary per year for contributions to Maryland's 529 plan. | None. | None. |
| Effect on financial aid | Smaller. Under the current federal formula, a parent-owned plan is assessed at no more than 5.64% of its value, and a grandparent-owned plan is not reported on the FAFSA. | Larger. The account is the student's own asset, assessed at 20%. | Retirement accounts are not reported as assets on the FAFSA. Withdrawals may count as income. |
| The catch | Earnings withdrawn for anything other than qualified expenses are taxed as income and generally carry a 10% federal penalty. | The gift cannot be undone, and at 21 the money is theirs to spend however they choose. | The child must have real earned income, and it should be documented. |
Figures are for 2026 and change from year to year. All three accounts hold investments that can lose value, and each has its own fees. Many families end up using more than one. Which one gets the first dollar depends on the child's age, what the money is for, and how sure you are about college.
What we help with
Gifting and education planning services we provide
Most of this work starts with one question about one person. The ones below come up often.
What you can afford to give
Before any gift, we look at your cash flow and run your own retirement plan again with the gift taken out. We test it against a long life, a down market, and a few years of care at the end. If the numbers look tight, we look at a smaller amount or a later date. The projections rest on assumptions, so we update them as things change.
Annual gifting
In 2026 you can generally give up to $19,000 apiece to as many people as you like without filing a gift tax return, and your spouse can do the same. A larger gift means filing a return and using part of a lifetime exemption, $15 million per person for 2026, but for most families no tax is due. Which asset you give can matter too, since gifted shares keep your original cost, and that part overlaps with our tax planning and investment management work.
Tuition and medical bills paid directly
Tuition paid straight to the school, or a medical bill paid straight to the provider, is excluded from gift tax and uses none of your $19,000 annual exclusion for 2026. The payment has to go to the institution, and only tuition qualifies, so room and board are still ordinary gifts. A direct tuition payment can reduce need-based aid at some schools, so ask the aid office before you write the check.
Education planning
We put numbers on it, starting with what four years may cost for a child this age and how much of that you want to cover. That gives us a monthly savings target to work from. Four years in-state at College Park and four years at a private university are very different targets, so we ask which one you are aiming at.
529 college savings plans
Choosing a plan and deciding who should own the account come first. We compare your home state's plan, including any state tax break, with the other plans open to you. Most plans offer age-based portfolios that turn more conservative as the first tuition bill gets closer, though they can lose value in any year. You can also put five years of annual gifts into a 529 at once, up to $95,000 per child in 2026, by making an election on a gift tax return. Part of that gift comes back into your estate if you die within the five years.
Roth IRAs for children
A teenager with a summer job can have a Roth IRA, and a parent or grandparent can supply the money, up to what the child earned that year or $7,500 for 2026, whichever is less. The dollar amounts tend to be small, and the account is worth the paperwork because money that goes in at sixteen may stay invested for decades. Like any investment, it can lose value along the way.
UGMA and UTMA custodial accounts
Of the three accounts, this is the flexible one. A custodial account can hold a wide range of investments, and the custodian can spend the money on nearly anything that benefits the child. In exchange, the gift is permanent, the income is taxed each year, and in Maryland the account becomes theirs outright at 21. We talk through whether you are comfortable with that last part.
Helping adult children
When an adult child needs money for a down payment, a wedding, a business, or a rough year, we help you weigh a gift against a loan. If it is a loan, your attorney handles the paperwork and your tax professional the interest rules. We can also keep a running record of what each child has received, so your estate plan can account for it. Co-signing gets its own conversation, because the debt lands on you if the payments stop.
Caring for an aging parent
We help estimate what care may cost, what your parent's own income and savings can cover, and how the family might share the rest. We ask about long-term care coverage that may already be in place. Before anyone moves a parent's assets, an elder law attorney should be involved, because gifts made in the five years before a Medicaid application can delay eligibility.
Who this is for
When this kind of planning matters most
You have young children or grandchildren
An early start gives a college fund more years to work with, although nothing about the returns is guaranteed. This is also an easy time to choose an account, because nothing has been opened yet.
An adult child needs a hand
A first home, graduate school, a wedding, a stretch between jobs. The request usually arrives with a deadline. It helps to know ahead of time what you can give, and whether it should be a gift or a loan.
A parent is starting to need help
You are still saving for your own retirement, maybe still paying tuition, and now there are questions about your mother's care and who pays for it. People in this spot often cut back their own savings first, usually without telling anyone. We help you see what that would do to your own plan before you decide.
You have more than you will spend
Your plan works with room to spare, and you would like to see the money do some good while you are here to watch. Lifetime giving may also reduce what is later exposed to Maryland's estate and inheritance taxes, so we look at it alongside your estate planning.
How we work
Our process
Four steps, built to work alongside your CPA and your attorney.
Introductory call
Fifteen to twenty minutes on the phone to hear who you want to help and what you have in mind. No cost, no obligation.
Your plan first
We review your income, savings, and spending to estimate how much you could give, or set aside for someone's care, once your own retirement needs are counted.
Options
We lay out the choices side by side: which account or method, whose name it goes in, how much, and when. You see the general tax treatment and the trade-offs in plain language.
Implement & revisit
We help open the accounts, set up contributions, and coordinate with your CPA or attorney. Then we revisit it every year, because families change and so do the limits.
Experience
Why families bring us these questions
Adair & Associates is a wealth management practice in Marriottsville, Maryland. Our team brings more than 45 years of combined industry experience, and securities and advisory services are offered through LPL Financial.

Hunter Adair, CFP®
Wealth Management Advisor, Partner
A CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER® professional who has worked in financial planning since 2002, Hunter leads the firm's planning work and meets personally with every prospective client. An Ellicott City native, he lives there with his wife and three children. Full bio

Pat Gibbons
Wealth Management Advisor, Partner
More than 30 years in financial services, including time as a partner in a CPA firm and as a business owner. That background shapes how the practice approaches wealth transfer and tax-aware planning. Pat holds a BS in Accounting from the University of Baltimore and lives in Ellicott City with his family. Full bio
We work with your CPA and attorney
How we fit in
Gifts often involve a tax return or a legal document, and those belong to your CPA and your attorney. We coordinate with both of them, and we check each gift against your own plan before it is made.
2205 Warwick Way, Suite 300, Marriottsville, MD 21104 · (443) 609-7727 · hunter.adair@adairadvisory.com
Before we meet
What to bring to the conversation
Nothing is required for an introductory call. If you want to get further in the first conversation, these help:
- Who you want to help, and how. Names, ages, and what you have in mind, even if it is still vague.
- Statements for any 529 plans, custodial accounts, or children's IRAs that are already open, including ones a grandparent set up.
- Recent statements for your own retirement and investment accounts. They tell us what you can afford to give.
- An estimate of your annual spending, and when you expect to stop working if you have not already.
- Any gift tax returns you have filed, or a list of large gifts from the last few years.
- For a parent's care: their monthly income, a rough list of what they own, any long-term care policy, and who holds power of attorney.
- Your will or trust, if gifts to one child are supposed to be evened out later.
Common questions
Gifting and college savings FAQs
How much can I give without paying gift tax?
In 2026 you can give up to $19,000 per person to as many people as you like, with no gift tax and no return to file. Your spouse can give the same amount, so together you could give a child $38,000 in a year. If you go over, you file a gift tax return, but in most cases you still owe nothing, because the excess is subtracted from a lifetime exemption of $15 million per person for 2026. The person receiving the gift generally does not owe federal income tax on it. Maryland has no gift tax of its own. These numbers change and some gifts follow special rules, so confirm the details with your tax professional before making a large gift.
Should I give money now or leave it as an inheritance?
Many families do some of each. Giving now lets you see the money used, and it can reach your children in the years when a mortgage and child care take most of a paycheck. The tax rules pull the other way for some assets. Shares you give away keep your original cost basis, so the person who sells them may owe tax on your gain, but assets left at death generally receive a new cost basis as of that date. For that reason some people give cash and hold on to investments with large gains. Your tax professional can tell you whether that fits your situation.
Should I use a 529 plan or a custodial account for college savings?
For money that is clearly meant for education, many families start with a 529 plan. Earnings are not taxed while they stay in the account, withdrawals for qualified education expenses are free of federal income tax, the adult stays in control, and a parent-owned account counts less in federal aid formulas. The trade-off is that earnings spent on anything else are taxed and generally penalized, and your investment choices are limited to the plan's menu. A custodial account makes sense when you want the money available for anything that benefits the child, or when you are giving something a 529 cannot hold, such as shares of stock. In return you accept tax on the income each year and a larger effect on aid, and in Maryland the child takes full control at 21. Either account carries fees and investment risk.
Does Maryland give a tax break for 529 contributions?
Yes, for contributions to Maryland's own 529 plan. A Maryland taxpayer who owns an account or contributes to one can generally subtract up to $2,500 per beneficiary per year from Maryland income, and contributions above that carry forward for up to ten years. Two parents who each contribute for the same child can each take the subtraction, and so can grandparents who pay Maryland income tax. There are conditions. You cannot take it in a year the state adds money to your account through its Save4College program, and money withdrawn later for non-qualified purposes may have Maryland tax consequences. If you live in another state, your home state's plan may come with its own benefit, so we compare before you choose.
What happens to a 529 plan if my child does not go to college?
You have more choices than families did a few years ago. Under current federal law you can change the beneficiary to another qualifying family member, such as a brother, a sister, or a first cousin. The money can pay for trade school, a registered apprenticeship, or up to $10,000 of the beneficiary's student loans. Up to $35,000 over the beneficiary's lifetime can also be moved into a Roth IRA in their name. The 529 has to have been open at least 15 years, each year's transfer is capped at the annual Roth contribution limit, and other conditions apply. Failing all of that, you can withdraw the money and pay income tax plus a 10% federal penalty on the earnings portion. State tax treatment varies, and a state may take back deductions it gave you earlier.
Can I open a Roth IRA for my child or grandchild?
Generally yes, once the child has earned income from a job or from self-employment such as babysitting or mowing lawns. An allowance does not count. The account is opened and managed by an adult custodian, usually a parent, and contributions for 2026 are limited to what the child earned, up to $7,500. The money itself can come from you. It is worth keeping records of what the child earned, especially for cash jobs.
Will saving in my child's name hurt financial aid?
It depends on the account. Under the current federal formula, a 529 plan owned by a parent is counted as a parent asset and assessed at no more than 5.64% of its value. A custodial account belongs to the student and is assessed at 20%. A 529 owned by a grandparent is not reported on the FAFSA, and since the 2024-25 award year withdrawals from it are no longer counted as the student's income. Some private colleges use a second form, the CSS Profile, that can ask about accounts the FAFSA leaves out. The formulas change, so we check the current rules as the first application gets close, and the school's aid office has the final word.
How do I help pay for a parent's care without hurting my own retirement?
Start with your parent's own resources: Social Security, any pension, savings, home equity, and any long-term care insurance. Then settle what the family will add and how it is divided, ideally before a hospital stay forces the question. If you do pay, pay the care provider directly, which keeps qualifying medical expenses outside the gift tax rules. Be careful about moving a parent's assets. In Maryland and most other states, Medicaid reviews transfers made in the five years before an application for long-term care coverage, and gifts in that window can delay eligibility. The $19,000 gift tax exclusion offers no cover there, because Medicaid can count a gift of any size. This is a legal question, so we coordinate with the elder law attorney you choose.
What if the person I want to help receives disability benefits?
Then the form of the gift matters a great deal. Programs such as Supplemental Security Income and Medicaid have strict asset limits, and a well-meant check written to your son or your sister can interrupt benefits they depend on. ABLE accounts and special needs trusts were created for this situation, and each has its own eligibility rules and limits. A special needs trust is a legal document and should be drafted by an attorney who handles them regularly. That attorney can also advise on how a gift affects benefits. We work on the financial side, which covers how much to set aside and where it is held.
Do I need to move my accounts to get help with this?
You can start without moving anything. Many people begin with an introductory call about a single decision, such as a 529 for a new grandchild or a gift toward a house. Whether to move accounts is a question for later, if this turns into a longer relationship.
How much money do I need to work with Adair & Associates?
We start with a conversation. The introductory call is where we learn what you are trying to solve and tell you honestly whether we are a good fit. If we are not, we will say so.
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Important disclosures
Content last reviewed October 2026.
Adair & Associates and LPL Financial do not provide tax or legal advice or services. We do not prepare tax returns, draft loan agreements, trusts, or other legal documents, or advise on eligibility for Medicaid or other public benefits. This material is for general informational purposes only and is not intended to provide specific advice or recommendations for any individual, nor is it a substitute for specific individualized tax or legal advice. To determine which investments may be appropriate for you, consult your financial professional prior to investing. Please consult your qualified tax or legal professional regarding your particular situation.
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Prior to investing in a 529 Plan investors should consider whether the investor's or designated beneficiary's home state offers any state tax or other state benefits such as financial aid, scholarship funds, and protection from creditors that are only available for investments in such state's qualified tuition program. Withdrawals used for qualified expenses are federally tax free. Tax treatment at the state level may vary. Please consult with your tax advisor before investing.
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Rollovers from a 529 plan to a Roth IRA are subject to a $35,000 lifetime limit per beneficiary, annual Roth IRA contribution limits, a requirement that the 529 account has been open for at least 15 years, and other conditions under federal law. State tax treatment varies.
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